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Saturday, April 14, 2012

girl talk








I used to gag when couples in movies kissed. I never wanted to get married. But I wasn't the kind of person who thought boys were disgusting (like some girls), in fact, I sometimes preferred boys over girls as playmates. Boys were not good looking and most certainly not cute.

Now, let's just say that maybe kissing somebody isn't so disturbing (yeah, I can't believe I just said that). I'm still not like some girls. I don't secretly stalk some 'hot' celebrity, I don't like a million boys, I don't really like love stories unless you mix a lot of action in. But, something certainly has changed. I guess it's normal and girls are supposed to like boys, because if they didn't nobody would get married and then nobody would probably exist. That would be sad.

But, I don't want to be the kind of person who thinks about guys too much. I mean, sure, it's okay to like people or have your eyes on somebody. I just don't want that to take the place of Christ. I see so many young women out there who are spending their time and thoughts on one boy, and it seems like a waste to me. I don't want to marry a man and us be so much in love with each other that we don't set our eyes on Jesus. I don't want to marry a guy who gives me roses all the time, and sends me letters, and is so into me. I'm a little human being. Sure, I don't mind if he does those things, but I just want him to radiate Christ so that when we're together, we're a team, and our propose is to glorify Him. And maybe that's asking too much. If so, I guess I won't marry.

This post was originally titled "guarding your heart", but it sort of changed. If you're a single girl, what are you looking for in a man? And do you 'like' anybody? (just joking)

12 comments:

  1. Interesting, thought provoking post! I too, used to want to, and did, cover my eyes whenever somebody kissed. But I'm totally cool with it now.

    Honestly, when (if) I get married, I would love a dude that would bring me roses and send me letters and is super into me. But that's just me because I'm a mushy gushy person. :-P I like guys who are down to earth and just a nice person. And they have to have a sense of humor and they have to laugh a lot. :)

    And I do have crushes on one or two people (that I know in real life, not celebreties!)... but I never tell anybody who I like. ;P

    and I like love stories as long as the two people aren't slobbering over each other constantly... there has to be action or some kind of deep message in the book. :)

    awesome post. and i'm sorry that my comment is so long. :P

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    1. Rachel, feel free to leave REALLY long comments. I love them. Just so ya know. ;)

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  2. I'm like you Kendra, I'm not into boys and like a million different guys at once. I never was a boy-crazy girl. I never had a boyfriend and still don't...but, what I would like in my future husband is to have a guy who loves God and has a strong relationship with Him- that is my first and top priority. I would like him to show me love and who will love me for who I am inside. I would like him to care for me and will always be there for me. I also would like him to be somewhat good looking. ; ) Well, that is basically what I'm looking for in a husband. Great post Kendra! :)

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  3. I read this quote on a t-shirt, and it about sums it up for me :).

    "A girl needs to be so lost in Christ that a guy needs to seek Him to find her."

    I'm praying for you!!

    In Christ,
    Heidi

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  4. That is such a great thought, Kendra! I think girls have to be reminded of the fact that even when they have a boyfriend, fiancé, and husband, God has to be number one in their life. I think we (or maybe use I do sometimes) tend to think that God can be our number one...until we get married, and then our husband is number one. But that is so not true. And I don't think you're asking too much about your future spouse being your teammate and loving God more than you. ;)

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  5. Christ should be the center to a marriage, but I think part of caring for and loving your wife (like the bible tells husbands too) should include chocolates and roses and being head over heels for them ;) I totally know what you mean though! :)

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  6. Great post, Kendra! That pretty much sums up what I think about that whole matter! (not that I really think about those things at the moment. i'm only thirteen!)
    ~Holly

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  7. Paha, I'm still one of those girls who almost gag whenever I see a couple kissing. Apologies for my immaturity. :P I've always seen boys as mates, never anything else much. In Primary school, I'd be one of those girls who'd go over and play tig with the boys instead of sitting around talking with girls. Haha. I know I want to get married when I'm older but apart from that, I'm not too good with romance. My sister's 8 and luuurrveee romances while I don't really like them :P. Sorry for doing a really long post. I must be boring you to tears!

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    1. Jess, just WAIT...a couple of months ago I was just like you... =P

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  8. I'm having a giveaway--- http://be-thou-my-vision.blogspot.com/2012/04/les-pluies-davril-spring-giveaway.html

    ~Johanna

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  9. haha I've ruined you for life. I think if the guy and the girl love Jesus and He is first in their lives, then He will give them a love for each other that they would've never had before. Ya know?

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